Discipline and choice

the secret parenting hack
you won’t find anywhere else
By Karen Braveheart

Why discipline? The true definition of discipline, or teaching, has the power and potential to change your life and the life of your child in the most positive ways.

Our content teaches you how to turn any stressful interaction with your child into an empowering (and enlightening) lesson that will stay with your child forever.

This is done by turning the stressful moment (tantrums, throwing stuff around, yelling, etc…) into what I call a “teachable moment” with your child. It starts with your choice to discipline and not punish aka shame your child.

Self worth brain building can only be done with love. That’s easy when your child is happy and “acting good”. It’s not so easy to do when your child is in the middle of a tantrum and screaming their head off.

That’s where Prodigi Kids can best support you. We show you how to make parenting easy even in the most stressful of interactions.

Teachable moments are opportunities to reduce your stress as a parent and eliminate similar stressful moments from happening in the future. By teaching your child now, they will internalize their choice of behavior, understand the consequences of their choices better, and you’ll be equipping them with the tools to grow into a confident and independent person.

Typically, when we think about punishment, we see our child’s behavior as a wrong that needs to be corrected. Parents often think they’re disciplining their child, but what they’re really doing is punishing or shaming them. The origin of the term, “discipline” is much different.

The word “discipline” is from the Latin word disciplina, meaning
instruction. It is derived from the root word discere- “to learn”.

With discipline comes thoughts of instruction, teaching, learning, knowledge; basically, a student of education. It does not mean to punish, shame, hit, or insult.

Our Prodigi Kids Self Worth Parenting Paradigm is based on discipline, never punishment, and teaches parents how to use “teachable moments” to help their child understand the consequences of their choices.

Instead of telling your child they’re bad or making them feel shamed for their behavior, you can use discipline to teach your child about their choices and consequences. Even young toddlers! Using our discipline approach actually makes parenting a whole lot easier and peaceful for you too!

Happiness is a choice. The path to a happy life is to fulfill the dreams inside your heart. The most important choice you’ll ever make for yourself is whether or not you want to pursue your dreams.

Living your dreams provides a life full of joy and peace; while ignoring them leads only to misery and suffering. I’ve done both and can tell you with 100% certainty that happiness only comes from following the dreams inside your heart- not doing what your parents or anyone else tells you.

Parents- are you choosing to follow your dreams or ignore them? Kids learn from watching how you live your life more than any other way. This shows how powerful a parent’s behavior is in shaping the behavior of their child.

Why am I mentioning this here? Because a happy mom = a happy home.

When you’re happy with your life, then you’re teaching your child to value themselves and their own happiness. This is the truest kind of teachable moment.

There may be a part of your life that you’re unhappy with- let’s say it’s your job, but you need to pay bills. I get it and that’s ok. I’ve been in survival mode before. It’s different when you stay stuck in a nowhere job you hate versus actively looking for a different job or perhaps starting a business that you’ve always wanted to.

The key difference is that you’re taking steps toward your own happiness. That’s huge! There’s always a way to make it happen.

Discipline teaches your child to make an inner choice; punishment robs them of it. The current punishment model based on shame robs your child of their happiness from birth.

What is shame? It’s the feeling of being so broken that you don’t feel worthy of having good things in life- that you’re bad at your core, which is the root of unhappiness and suffering in adulthood.

Under a shame based punishment parenting model, a child is seen as someone to be trained to obey your rules or a code of behavior and is punished if found to be disobedient.

This old way of parenting only leads to unhappy adults with unresolved childhood trauma.

A child who is raised with the punishment model looks outside themselves for love

They aren’t taught how to tune into their own heart and listen to their dreams because they are taught that they are bad for their behavior

They learn to reject themselves and distrust their own heart- their true, authentic selves

Punishing your child shames them and teaches them they’re unworthy at their core, which leads to a lifelong negative mindset. They don’t feel worthy  of happiness in all areas of life- your relationships, career, health, etc…

Under the self worth discipline model that we pioneered here at Prodigi Kids and developed over the past 16 years, we use teachable moments to teach your child about their choices.

Your child is NOT their choice. They are NOT bad for making certain choices (peeing on the floor, smearing sharpie all over the wall, hitting their brother.)

Your child simply needs to be taught in a way that encourages them to understand the consequences of their choices and make better informed decisions next time.

I firmly believe that we need to raise our kids with self worth- to believe in themselves, their dreams, and their right to happiness.

To do that, we need to teach them how to make independent choices and learn from their mistakes without being stifled by shame. By following the Prodigi Kids Self Worth Parenting Paradigm, we can raise our children with self worth, the main ingredient to making one’s dreams come true and leading a happy, fulfilling life.

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