What Does a Child Experience When You Shame Them?
Spanking and being called names and put down doesn't teach a child anything except to hate themselves and that they aren't worthy of receiving love. Nothing good comes from it. Only shame and feeling that you're bad at your core. The way I was punished put me in full survival mode- shutting down my emotions to protect myself. I became desperate for love and searched for it outside myself. I spent years repeating the same past patterns in relationships with men and chose a career that wasn't fully fulfilling. Shame is silent- it goes into your subconscious brain during the early years of your childhood and comes out as an adult in these kinds of ways. Personally, I think it's...